I'm writing this because its important to me, and I suspect to many others also. This is what is at the core of many readers IMO! I've studied this is for 6 years now, I'm certain. To dismiss what I'm typing is not only dishonest but irresponsible, denial and fear, IMO! It took a while for me to realize this. Not being responsible about this causes us to miss out on life.
I've wanted a great (Modula or similar) system for a while. Whats more, I wanted the savings, pride, and lessons that come with DIY. In my journey through DIY, I've felt unworthy of the great systems I wanted. I'm certain I'm worthy, intellectually, but on an emotional level its not so clear, I do not feel so certain. I feel unworthy. I feel like a loser. I feel terrible. I fell sad, angry, and shame. Still its ok, I dont feel completely worthless/unworthy. My spirit also feels broken, like somethings wrong with me. Those feelings are terrifying. Because they feel real, even though they are not fact. I feel incompetent, unlovable and stupid. Growing up in this shame based society thought me relate and feel this way about myself. Society teaches shame. I felt shame before, through, and after building my system. I put my self down for making mistakes. Even if I did not want to, I was powerless but to react with shame towards myself. We need to be honest. Shame, is a big part of life, its a big part of DIY. IMO its the central reason those who love DIY procrastinate, quit, feel down, etc..etc...
We need take responsibility and make removing the shame a top priority. Individually, for our own good. So that we can enjoy life and great sound systems with serenity, gusto, and happiness.
I've wanted a great (Modula or similar) system for a while. Whats more, I wanted the savings, pride, and lessons that come with DIY. In my journey through DIY, I've felt unworthy of the great systems I wanted. I'm certain I'm worthy, intellectually, but on an emotional level its not so clear, I do not feel so certain. I feel unworthy. I feel like a loser. I feel terrible. I fell sad, angry, and shame. Still its ok, I dont feel completely worthless/unworthy. My spirit also feels broken, like somethings wrong with me. Those feelings are terrifying. Because they feel real, even though they are not fact. I feel incompetent, unlovable and stupid. Growing up in this shame based society thought me relate and feel this way about myself. Society teaches shame. I felt shame before, through, and after building my system. I put my self down for making mistakes. Even if I did not want to, I was powerless but to react with shame towards myself. We need to be honest. Shame, is a big part of life, its a big part of DIY. IMO its the central reason those who love DIY procrastinate, quit, feel down, etc..etc...
We need take responsibility and make removing the shame a top priority. Individually, for our own good. So that we can enjoy life and great sound systems with serenity, gusto, and happiness.
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